Shout out to all moms - what you really want to know....

Moms are really superheros....if you have not figured that out by now......it's true.....they have many many roles and demands on a mom is overwhelming .....she is the driver, housekeeper, doctor, teacher, fashion designer, cook, event planner, homework buddy, school lunch mother, volunteer, clothes picker upper, friend, disciplinarian, taster, shopper, organizer, role model, banker, dog walker, cabano girl, gardener, support system....and the list goes on and on....In addition, Moms like to know everything.....that's the way it just is......you can't blame us ! As a mom raising boys.....loved, loved every minute.....so much fun and so much work..... I got to experience another side I never had any idea about...boys and sports ! wow what a combination. I also realized that each child is different and love their individuality, who they are and what makes them special.  Moms are very overprotective...did I say overprotective ?? just for the record -  all moms like to protect  our children - to keep them safe and help them understand the important and valuable lessons of life.

All moms want to navigate the school year with as much organization and success as possible....and have somewhat of a schedule or a plan.....it might not always work out, but at least, there is a plan of the week and everyone knows more or less what will be taking place.

Especially if you are a sport mom, your life just got superbusy tenfold, you spend lots of times in arena's, fields, and facilities where you are hanging out with lots of other moms.....we spend lots of time - talking about our kids and all the fun raising them, our day to day challenges and just the ordinary school day follow-up !What I have learned and observed is really simple -   all moms want to be in the know....all the time....Moms do a pretty good job to balance work life and family life - not easy, but totally devoted to raising their children when they have made that committment. And that means that they will go to great length to make it their business about their kids whereabouts.

So ever wonder.....what moms really mean when they are asking certain questions.......

here is a list I have put together.....over the years we establish our own dictionary of mom language....this would be a great time to take it out and dust it off....I am sure at the next dinner with my boys, we will probably talk about this list, have a few laughs....I look at it this way....memories are priceless, nothing makes me more proud than to have asked these questions and being a difficult mom.....I think in the end....my boys understood why i was asking them ! (and maybe secretly thanking me )

So back to this list and back to school - there are changes happening in every household this time of year... and ofcourse the questions you ask and want to know will have a different meaning for different ages. Summer is pretty much wrapping up.....moms get their children ready for back to school.....moms go back to work, teachers welcome their students with open arms......and moms go on mommy patrol all through the year.....to all moms out there and mommies to be and grandmas....there is a universal language between us. The role we play has an unbelieveable impact on our children....and one day, when they become parents, they will ask those same questions and really want to know exactly what we want to know now. We all play a key role for generations to come.....that is just the way it is - your every action to nurture, teach, appreciate, love and build your family will bring you years of beautiful memories.....so on this labor day , I salute all moms for your efforts and the next time you hear one of these questions....what are you really asking ??  I especially am thinking of my mom today and all her questions !!! love you mom and miss you !

here are my favorite questions.....and what I really want to know.....which one is your favorite.....share what you really want to know ? All moms need to stick together.....

　

• Where are you going ? you want a detailed itinerary....with whom, times, how long staying, have you been there before

• who are you going with ? do I know them ?

• I have not seen so and so for a while ? what has happened ?? a quarrel ?

• what time are you coming home ? is it going to be past midnight ?....( first six months driving, would not be able to sleep)

• are you taking the car ? who are you driving exactly, can't have any drinks, are you the designated driver ?

• Am i picking you up tonight ? please dear god don't make it a long night....

• Who's picking you up ? do i know them, who else is going to be in the car ?

• do you have any homework ? why are you not in your room doing your homework ?

• on the way home, can you make a stop for me ? I really need for you to pick up the dog food...

• I am on the way home, can you put the water to boil ? can you make spaghetti ?

• Did not have the chance to clean up the kitchen, are you busy ?....can you put away all the dishes from the dishwasher ?

• Are you planning to swim when you get home ? Can you clean the pool ?

• oh, do i know your friend ?? I want to meet friend, invite them for dinner soon...

• don't you have something else you can wear ? not particularly thrilled about what you are wearing, can you pls go and change ?

• we have a wedding in 2 weeks, are you coming ? need to confirm our attendance, clear schedule.....(haha...they gotta love our family get togethers )

• do you have plans this friday ?? we are having a family dinner night...don't make any plans !